Sweet Miracles

It happens at least half the time that the moment i put words down in a blog, the situation changes after that. In this case, it applies to my happy spiritual high state that i was in when writing my previous entry, as well as the 10-min exercise routine which we haven’t done in the past 2 days cos i was getting a bit tired of it. Believe it or not, i was feeling too grumpy these couple nights to feel like feeling good. Talk about being trapped in samsara. :/

In any case, i hope the blogging jinx applies in this entry as well. Hopefully after tonight, i will feel like (word count: 111!) exercising again. I take that 111 as a good sign… hehe…

Talking abt my magical number, i was getting groceries again, and feeling rather glum, partly cos of a somewhat disturbing dream the night before, which affected my mood since morning and i cldn’t quite get out of it. While queuing up at the counter, i recalled the words i said this afternoon to a young client with low self-esteem, that in fact, there is absolutely no reason why anybody should feel inadequate at all, cos we all have our own strengths and potentials waiting to be fulfilled. My tone was matter-of-fact and full of certainty, and actually, it’s ironic that i could feel so darn sure about what i was saying during the session, but not feel the same way once out of it, since there are a million things that i feel inadequate abt. The interesting thing about this job, is that words that pop out of my mouth for my clients are more often than not relevant for me as well, and in trying to “enlighten” them (i was amused when my client later told me that he felt enlightened!), i end up enlightening myself as well.

Well, thinking of this perked me up a little and i was smiling to myself when the cashier told me the amt of $11.80. Seconds later, she corrected herself and said the amt was $11.11. I looked at the machine and sure enough, the number 11.11 was there. I felt like i won the jackpot! What are the odds of buying the exact amt of groceries that would total up to my magic number?

So i immediately recalled what i was doing or thinking that might have gotten the universe’ applause, and i guess it was thinking of the advice i gave to my young client this afternoon. Maybe the universe rejoiced in that i gave the right advice to him. Or more likely, the universe was agreeing in my realisation that this is one piece of advice that i can definitely apply to myself.

Anyway, this is a client who is wise beyond his years. He had some conflict with another classmate and we were working using EFT on how he gets provoked by that classmate whenever the latter compares his better grades to his. After just one round of EFT on “his grades are better than mine”, his reaction got zapped to zero. Then he thought for a moment in sombre silence, and he told me that the reason why he gets upset by this classmate whenever he says such things, is really because of his own jealousy abt that classmate’s better grades.

I was stunned by his words and a feeling of warm sparkly tingles came over me. Most of my clients are able to see the faults of others, and usually blame other pple for their own problems. It’s a rare client who is able to draw the insight that the real reason for their upset really lies in themselves, not the other person. And he’s so young, just 13! Indeed, age is hardly a measure of wisdom. I was so thrilled by his maturity and level of insight that i decided to yap a little abt how the world is a reflection of our inner states, blah blah… in the end i think i got him a little confused. Haha…

In any case, i’m glad that EFT work helped him to resolve his negativity towards his classmate and now he’s just looking into constructive solutions on resolving the conflict between them. To me, clearing the emotions is more than half the battle won. After all, any emotion we feel towards the the other person will usually be picked up by the latter in terms of the vibes we generate towards him/her. Hence facing the person with neutrality or positivity will prob go a long way in aiding a positive outcome. Nevertheless, we discussed (or rather i preached) abt the likelihood of the other classmate not reacting in a positive manner to his attempts at resolution, which cld be due to his own problems, and which neither of us could control, and he’s accepted that. But of cos, i still hope that the war between them will end. Perhaps some surrogate tapping for that classmate wld have helped, but we didn’t have time for that, plus i wasn’t sure if he wld wanna try it. Hopefully what we did was gd enough.

In fact, it was, because towards the end, i asked him what he hoped to achieve in the end. I expected to hear him say, we will be friends again, or he will forgive me, etc. To my surprise and great pleasure, his response was, that he will be able to treat him normally as he would anyone else. What a beautiful wish! I think about 90% of my clients come, wishing for a situation that has to do with other pple making changes in themselves. Again, he’s one of the rare few who just want to work on themselves. If only all my clients are like him.

Thanks to EFT, he felt that he WAS able to now treat this classmate normally. I didn’t have time to tip it to the positive side by helping him feel sympathy and compassion for the classmate, but perhaps i didn’t need to – he might come to that by himself.

Well, after my session with this boy, i invited the mother in for a one-on-one just so that i cld praise him to the skies. I just felt so impressed by him that i had to share with his mother, and i honestly dunno if it’s really for her sake or my own need to share but i’m sure, being a mother myself, she wld feel happy inside to hear such words from another person about her son.

Meeting this client was a tremendously inspiring and humbling experience for me… reminded me that children can have so much wisdom within them, if only adults listen. May i always remember to listen to little boy too.