Kids are worth it

January 25, 2008 at 11:49 pm | Posted in Pearls of wisdom | 1 Comment

Just want to share these great quotes that this author Barbara Coloroso included in her book Kids are worth it. This book not only teaches me to respect children, it inspires me to be a better human being in general.

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you. – Wayne Dyer

Who of us is mature enough for offspring before the offspring themselves arrive? The value of marriage is not that adults produce children but that children produce adults. – Peter De Vries

I can imagine that someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we once knew but which we have long since forgotten, who can reveal to us more about the true secrets of life, and also our own lives, than our parents were ever able to. We do not need to be told whether to be strict or permissive with our children. What we do need is to have respects for their needs, their feelings, and their individuality, as well as for our own. – Rita Nakashima Brock, Christianity, Patriarchy and Abuse

“How does one become a butterfly?” she asked pensively. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” – Trina Paulus, Hope for the Flowers

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? – Jane Nelson, Positive Discipline

The troubling truth is that rewards and punishments are not opposites at all: They are two sides of the same coin. And it is a coin that doesn’t buy very much. – Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards

Children who are bribed and rewarded don’t have much of a chance to grow into independent and self-assured young people. They will always need somebody’s approval for their ideas and for their well-being they will need an unbroken supply of love and admiration. – Choon Tan, Teach Your Children Well

Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions. – Louise Hay

If you punish a child for being naughty, and reward him for being good, he will do right merely for the sake of the reward; and when he goes out into the world and finds that goodness is not always rewarded, nor wickedness always punished, he will grow into a man who only thinks about how he may get on in the world, and does right or wrong according as he finds advantage to himself. – Immanuel Kant, Education

There is a universal truth I have found in my work. Everybody longs to be loved. And the greatest thing we can do is let somebody know they are loved and capable of loving. – Fred Rogers, Mister Rogers’ Neighbourhood

He has the right to criticise who has the heart to help – Abraham Lincoln

I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now. – Virgina Satir, Peoplemaking

When one strives to manifest self according to the standards and mores consistent with others’ many expectations… that one will gaze his own mirrored reflection, yet will never see himself. – Mary Summer Rain, Whispered Wisdom

Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. – Tao Te Ching

Anyone can become angry – that’s easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is not easy. – Aristotle

The Sufis advis us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through three gates. At the first gate we ask ourselves, “Are these words true?” If so, we let them pass on; if not, back they go. At the second gate we ask, “Are they necessary?” At the last gate we ask, “Are they kind?” – Eknath Easwaran, Meditation

Intuition is the journey from A to Z without stopping at any other letter along the way. It is knowing without knowing why. – Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear

A problem well stated is a problem half-solved. – Charles F. Kettering

Wisdom is knowing what to do next, skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is doing it. – David Starr Jordan

Today, see if you can stretch your heart and expand your love so that it touches not only those to whom you can give it easily, but also those who need it so much. – Daphne Rose Kingma

Every time you meet a situation, though you think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it, you find that forever after you are freer than you were before. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. – Sydney J. Harris

Different truths exist simultaneously and we must weave them together to create a story that honours the needs of all. – Louise Diamond, The Courage for Peace

It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humilate another person. – Alice Miller, For Your Own Good

Becoming responsible adults is no longer a matter of whether children hang up their pyjamas or put dirty towels in the hamper, but whether they care about themselves and others – and whether they see everyday chores as related to how we treat this planet. – Eda Leshan

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. – Sidney J. Harris

Productive work, love and thought are possible only if the person can be, when necessary, quiet and alone. To be able to listen to oneself is the necessary condition for relating oneself to others. – Erich Fromm

Cowardice ask the question: is it safe? Expediency asks the question: is it politic? Vanity asks the question: is it popular? But conscience asks the question: is it right? And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, not politic, nor popular – but one must take it because it’s right. – Martin Luther King, Jr

Children do not magically learn morality, kindness and decency any more than they learn math, English or science. They mature into decent and responsible people by emulating adults who are examples and models for them, especially courageous parents with principles and values who stand up for what they believe. – Neil Kurshan, Raising Your Child to be a Mensch

Each small task of everyday life is part of the total harmony of the universe. – Saint Teresa of Lusieux

Financial integrity is achieved by learning the true impact of your earning and spending, both on your immediate family and on the planet. It is knowing what is enough money and material goods to keep you at the peak of fulfillment – what is just excess and clutter. It is having all aspects of your financial life in alignment with your values. – Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin, Your Money Or Your Life

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts… You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. – Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

My EFT article

January 20, 2008 at 3:59 am | Posted in All in a day's work | 6 Comments

A homework I need to complete before March, in time for Holistic Living Festival (www.holisticliving.com.sg) which I will be participating as an exhibitor for the first time (!!!). Right now I’m still not sure what exactly i wld be doing, aside from providing EFT services. But the latter is something i’m very excited about! While I’m still not 100% confident about doing this, i guess i still have over a month to psyche myself up for it (perhaps with the help of EFT too), and aside from confidence, there are also plenty of logistics to prepare – signages, flyers, registration lists, etc.

Today I thought I would start with the flyer, which i decided to be simply an article about EFT, and since i’m giving out my namecards from work, so people can actually look me up at SY if they need actual counselling, I have decided that the article would even include something abt SY and its focus on MBM which stands for Mind Body Medicine – aside from increasing my exposure and connecting with new age folks, this first-time endeavour might help increase SY’s clientele number, and at least I would feel that I have done my part in repaying SY’s kindness to me. A win-win for all!

Again, was deliberating between writing my article on word processor and on blog. I chose the latter (at this point, i see the number 222 word count – not sure what it means but hope it’s a gd sign!) as i always feel more connected to people here, knowing that anyone can be led to my blog, and perhaps this would help me present the information in a more accessible, reader-friendly way.

Well, here goes!

Continue Reading My EFT article…

The Children of Now

January 19, 2008 at 12:52 am | Posted in Manifestations, Pearls of wisdom, Rantings and ravings | Leave a comment

I saw this book that was just published in 2007 publicised in a new age newsletter for parents (The Children of the New Earth). Decided to do an NLB search and to my pleasant surprise, saw that it was actually available in Bedok and Bishan library. Synchronistically (my preferred word to coincidentally since i believe there is no such things as coincidences), the mani retreat was held in PKS which is in Bishan, so i managed to visit the library during that period and got hold of the book. As an aside, Bishan library is HUGE! And i was so impressed that there was quite a gd variety of books on new age/paranormal/healing/etc, which is quite uncommon in most libraries. Too bad this library is so far away from home or i wld visit it more often.

Anyway, back to the book. Once i started reading, i was intrigued by the fascinating experience of the writer with the so-called star children, which included indigo children (i am indigo myself), crystal children, rainbow children, etc. These children came to earth very much aware of their divinity and the mission that they came here to fulfill. They shared their knowledge and wisdom with the writer which was so simple in their profoundness, that i had to share it here.

“You know Mom, God is not a man or a woman. God is a great big ball of light and when you are born, he takes a little piece of that light and gives it to you” (this reminds me of the story The Sun and the Little Soul which i posted here before – when i read this statement, i felt so happy that i couldn’t stop smiling)

“I remember what it was like before I came here. Everyone told the truth and no one ever got hurt.”

“Nothing on Earth is as impt as everyone thinks. Those are the little things. Forever is what really matters.”

“How come people don’t remember when things were perfect? They still are, you know”

“I wish people could see what they are doing to each other. Maybe then they would learn to treat each other better.”

“Being love is a lot different from thinking about it.”

“So many people seem unhappy. That is because they don’t remember who they really are…”

 “Think about this: What if yesterday was now and tomorrow was too? Wouldn’t that mean that now is always? It is, you know.”

“Life is not about things and stuff. It is about loving ourselves and each other as much as we can.”

“I wish people could understand that when they get mad or happy or sad that they really share those feelings with everyone around them. Feelings are energy and energy moves.”

“If God is in me, then I must be God too. That means that I am really the master of all my creation.”

For a few months, i was in a dilemma about the use of EFT and its apparently too-good-to-be-true effectiveness in washing away emotional traumas of the past. Are emotions really all that bad? Do we really need to get rid of them? I have read and heard that all emotions are good, and they are important. Buddhism teaches us to be mindful and accept them, not try to get rid of them. So is EFT something like a way of “drugging” ourselves from the pain to escape from it?

Now i’m in a clearer state about EFT and its use with emotions. I learnt from the book The Secret Language of Feelings that emotions are merely an expression of unfulfilled needs. However, excessive emotions can deter us from moving forward with our lives in a positive way, so in this sense, EFT can help to clear those excessive and unbeneficial emotions.

But still, i have not yet found a fully satisfying answer to my question which is, how are emotions seen from the spiritual perspective. I think i have finally found it from this book.

“Emotions have nothing to do with creation or destruction except when you use passion to fuel your intention to manifest reality. A good example is when  you pray. You pray with all of your heart and soul, and your prayers are answered. That isn’t really emotion. That is creating from pure love. With emotions you can’t hold the energy of higher vibration because you aren’t in truth.”

Once i read this, I immediately recognised the truth in this message and the image of Buddha and other wise saints came into my mind. These awakened beings are not what you would describe as emotion-less. They do laugh and smile, they do look stern at times, but despite it all, they seem to have this unaffectedness and without a doubt, this accounts for their clarity of mind and unconditional acceptance of everything around them. Thank you, universe, for finally providing me with the answer i have been looking for. With this, i can feel even more certain about using EFT as a way of helping people awaken to their true selves.

Frankly, there are so many modalities, techniques, products that are sup to benefit people these days, but it’s really not easy to differentiate those that are ego-based, and those that are of the heart and spirit. It’s also not easy to differentiate the teacher from the teaching – sometimes the teaching seems true, yet the teacher seems egoistic (or is that my own projection?), and conversely, sometimes the teacher seems true, yet the teaching/product seems doubtful. Right now, i’m still exploring the value of 5PATH & 7 Path which i have already signed up for with my hypnotherapy teacher (another big hole in the wallet!) as well as the Quantum Pendant. I don’t doubt the benefits of these 2 healing tools, as there have been people who have been helped by them. But I want to be sure that the benefits also include spiritual ones, and would last over time. May I have the wisdom to discern the value of these healing tools and may the universe guide me to finding the answers once more. May the universe also lead me to all the healing tools and resources that would help me help more people.

For those who love children, work with children and have children, i highly recommend that you loan this book from the library. Even if you don’t believe in the label of star children (which is just a label, and labels can be limitations), then believe that all children are born with innate wisdom, and this is a wonderful book that showcase the wisdom of children which can inspire and open up your mind. Check it out! 🙂

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