Kids are worth it

January 25, 2008 at 11:49 pm | Posted in Pearls of wisdom | 1 Comment

Just want to share these great quotes that this author Barbara Coloroso included in her book Kids are worth it. This book not only teaches me to respect children, it inspires me to be a better human being in general.

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you. – Wayne Dyer

Who of us is mature enough for offspring before the offspring themselves arrive? The value of marriage is not that adults produce children but that children produce adults. – Peter De Vries

I can imagine that someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we once knew but which we have long since forgotten, who can reveal to us more about the true secrets of life, and also our own lives, than our parents were ever able to. We do not need to be told whether to be strict or permissive with our children. What we do need is to have respects for their needs, their feelings, and their individuality, as well as for our own. – Rita Nakashima Brock, Christianity, Patriarchy and Abuse

“How does one become a butterfly?” she asked pensively. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” – Trina Paulus, Hope for the Flowers

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? – Jane Nelson, Positive Discipline

The troubling truth is that rewards and punishments are not opposites at all: They are two sides of the same coin. And it is a coin that doesn’t buy very much. – Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards

Children who are bribed and rewarded don’t have much of a chance to grow into independent and self-assured young people. They will always need somebody’s approval for their ideas and for their well-being they will need an unbroken supply of love and admiration. – Choon Tan, Teach Your Children Well

Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions. – Louise Hay

If you punish a child for being naughty, and reward him for being good, he will do right merely for the sake of the reward; and when he goes out into the world and finds that goodness is not always rewarded, nor wickedness always punished, he will grow into a man who only thinks about how he may get on in the world, and does right or wrong according as he finds advantage to himself. – Immanuel Kant, Education

There is a universal truth I have found in my work. Everybody longs to be loved. And the greatest thing we can do is let somebody know they are loved and capable of loving. – Fred Rogers, Mister Rogers’ Neighbourhood

He has the right to criticise who has the heart to help – Abraham Lincoln

I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now. – Virgina Satir, Peoplemaking

When one strives to manifest self according to the standards and mores consistent with others’ many expectations… that one will gaze his own mirrored reflection, yet will never see himself. – Mary Summer Rain, Whispered Wisdom

Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. – Tao Te Ching

Anyone can become angry – that’s easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is not easy. – Aristotle

The Sufis advis us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through three gates. At the first gate we ask ourselves, “Are these words true?” If so, we let them pass on; if not, back they go. At the second gate we ask, “Are they necessary?” At the last gate we ask, “Are they kind?” – Eknath Easwaran, Meditation

Intuition is the journey from A to Z without stopping at any other letter along the way. It is knowing without knowing why. – Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear

A problem well stated is a problem half-solved. – Charles F. Kettering

Wisdom is knowing what to do next, skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is doing it. – David Starr Jordan

Today, see if you can stretch your heart and expand your love so that it touches not only those to whom you can give it easily, but also those who need it so much. – Daphne Rose Kingma

Every time you meet a situation, though you think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it, you find that forever after you are freer than you were before. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. – Sydney J. Harris

Different truths exist simultaneously and we must weave them together to create a story that honours the needs of all. – Louise Diamond, The Courage for Peace

It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humilate another person. – Alice Miller, For Your Own Good

Becoming responsible adults is no longer a matter of whether children hang up their pyjamas or put dirty towels in the hamper, but whether they care about themselves and others – and whether they see everyday chores as related to how we treat this planet. – Eda Leshan

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. – Sidney J. Harris

Productive work, love and thought are possible only if the person can be, when necessary, quiet and alone. To be able to listen to oneself is the necessary condition for relating oneself to others. – Erich Fromm

Cowardice ask the question: is it safe? Expediency asks the question: is it politic? Vanity asks the question: is it popular? But conscience asks the question: is it right? And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, not politic, nor popular – but one must take it because it’s right. – Martin Luther King, Jr

Children do not magically learn morality, kindness and decency any more than they learn math, English or science. They mature into decent and responsible people by emulating adults who are examples and models for them, especially courageous parents with principles and values who stand up for what they believe. – Neil Kurshan, Raising Your Child to be a Mensch

Each small task of everyday life is part of the total harmony of the universe. – Saint Teresa of Lusieux

Financial integrity is achieved by learning the true impact of your earning and spending, both on your immediate family and on the planet. It is knowing what is enough money and material goods to keep you at the peak of fulfillment – what is just excess and clutter. It is having all aspects of your financial life in alignment with your values. – Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin, Your Money Or Your Life

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts… You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. – Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

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  1. lovely quotes….:)…goodparenting blogs too have good tips n tricks on good parenting 🙂

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