Ho’oponopono – the problem is never out there…

October 24, 2009 at 1:03 am | Posted in My e-newsletters | Leave a comment

(Note: i realise i have a tendency to spell Ho’oponopono as Ho’oponono… excuse the typos!)

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Healing Insights  

Dear One,

Have you heard of Ho’oponono? Ok… it’s quite a mouthful, but this is by far the most powerful teaching I have heard, and it’s literally transformed the way I look at everything.

Here is the story written by Joe Vitale who was featured in The Secret, that introduced me to Ho’oponopono.

“Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

“When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn’t make any sense. It wasn’t logical, so I dismissed the story.

“However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho ‘oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn’t let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood “total responsibility” to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it’s out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We’re responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does–but that’s wrong.

“The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.

Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

“Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

“‘After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,’ he told me. ‘Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.’ I was in awe.’Not only that,’ he went on, ‘but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.’

“This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: ‘What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?’

“‘I was simply healing the part of me that created them,’ he said. I didn’t understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life–is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

“Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

“I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho ‘oponopono means loving yourself.

“If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.

“I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?

“‘I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,’ he explained.

“That’s it?

“That’s it.

“Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.

“Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.

“This time, I decided to try Dr. Len’s method. I kept silently saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you,’ I didn’t say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

“Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn’t take any outward action to get that apology. I didn’t even write him back. Yet, by saying ‘I love you,’ I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

“I later attended a ho ‘oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He’s now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.

He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book’s vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

“‘What about the books that are already sold and out there?’ I asked.

“‘They aren’t out there,’ he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. ‘They are still in you.’ In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.

“Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there’s only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love.”


Cool huh?
I have practised Ho’oponopono in my life many times, and often, the shifts that result are very noticeable. Here is one instance. There was a client who hung up on me when I asked him how come he needed to reschedule his session with me a second time. Needless to say, I was quite irked by his rude response. So I did EFT on my feelings of annoyance, and then I said “I’m sorry, please forgive, I love you, thank you” which are the four main phrases in the practice of Ho’oponopono, addressing the part of me who was offended by that client.
Since I was at work, I only did it for a few minutes and by then, I felt totally peaceful.
End of story? Nope!
Less than an hour later, the same client called me back. He apologised for his rude behaviour and told me that his appointment that clashed with our counselling session just got cancelled. In the end, he managed to make it for our original appointment and we had a really great session.
Apparently ho’oponopono doesn’t just work on human beings. A friend’s friend did ho’oponopono on a computer problem – and it got fixed within minutes!
If you understand that everything is energy, then you might somehow be able to grasp that it’s all about shifting our energies from a state of conflict and chaos into a state of harmony and synchronization. Ho’oponono is a profoundly simple and effective way to do it, and so is EFT. There are many other ways in this world too, but ho’oponopono and EFT are by far the easiest and fastest methods that I know of for now.
And guess what? You can do EFT and ho’oponopono combined. This is also a good alternative for those of you who never seem to know what words to say while tapping. You can simply think of the issue, and tap on the EFT points as you repeat the 4 phrases “I’m sorry, please forgive, I love you, thank you.”
Today’s tapping exercise? It’s a really simple and enjoyable one. 🙂 Click on this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8wSA4uCQWo&feature=player_embedded and tap as you view the video, with the intention of healing a certain issue.
Do this daily, and I’m pretty sure that you will see transformations happening within you AND in your surroundings.
And here’s some ho’oponopono to end this article off with… I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you and THANK YOU!
Join me for Prosperity with EFT on every Friday 7.30 – 9 pm (except last Friday) at Shan You Counselling Centre (www.shanyou.org.sg). This Friday, the topic will be “Relationships”. Do you have relationships in your life that need healing? If so… come along! Fees are by donation (recommended minimum is $10, but it’s optional… your presence is valuable to me too). Please sms me at 96715709 to confirm your attendance.
(Do scroll down to view comments by regular attendees)
Body Mind Spirit Festival (www.holisticliving.com.sg) is coming up THIS weekend, 24 and 25 October, 10 am – 8 pm. Admission is free, and there is a free shuttle bus from Dobby Gauht MRT. With the free workshops and talks, and an incredible range of holistic services and products… this is a great way to spend your weekend with family and friends. Be sure to come by my booth to say hi, and try out the cool Heartmath software hosted by Ailee! 
Masterminding with EFT officially begins on next Friday, 30 October 7.30 – 10.30 pm and will continue on every last Friday of the month. Some of you asked me, “But how does it work if we all come with different goals?” It doesn’t matter, because there is the common objective of expanding your potential to achieve your life goals. The group synergy and EFT will help you reach them at an exponential rate. If you wish to move forward towards your goals much more quickly than your current pace, these sessions are for you. (yes slow and steady wins the race, but it’s also a little boring…). Many successful people account their success to masterminding groups, and by now, I know you know that using EFT is only going to reinforce the effectiveness even more. The investment for this incredible session is only SGD 33. Do sms me at 96715709 to confirm your attendance.
Recommended Resources
Have you heard of Jo Dunning? She is an amazing healer whom I recently stumbled upon on the internet. I bought her audio energy healing sessions and I definitely feel a positive shift in myself ever since I started listening to them. She has free energy healing teleseminars as well as the Abundance Project that anyone can participate in for free, to receive the healing that she offers for clearing blockages to abundance. Check out her website at www.jodunning.com.
Vanessa is a Holistic Coach whom I highly recommend for her professionalism, acute observation skills, good intuition and warm personality. If you would like to be coached, and wish to seek something is more systematic and structured, this might be for you. Check out Vanessa’s website at http://inflowandbalance.com. There are plenty of great free resources there too – enjoy!
Happy Comments
You hear me talk about Prosperity with EFT. Now let’s hear it from some of the regular attendees of Prosperity with EFT.

“I used to not be able to take stress, and when work comes along, I would panick because I don’t know how to organize my work. After coming for Prosperity with EFT, I became very positive. I became aware of my need to be responsible which cause me worry about work wherever I go. I started to take it more easy, and even when workload is high, I can’t find any stress! I can organize my work more effectively and also fall asleep more easily now. My advice to others, just tap!”
– Jo, admin assistant


“My back injury pain and snoring that resulted from an accident 20 years ago have disappeared. I also used to think very negatively but nowadays I don’t. Now when I have negative emotions, I know I can tap it off and I do.” – Eric, tour manager


“I am calmer in doing my trading, which is important because high risk is involved and I need to stay cool. After coming for Prosperity with EFT, all my positive energy started to flow in and I got a 50 K return in my trading, which I haven’t seen for a few years.” – Amerlin, full-time trader


“In my diary, every Friday is EFT Day! I look forward to attending ‘Prosperity with EFT’ session to de-stress and to find healing. At all times, I leave feeling energised and inspired. The group setting creates “Borrowing Benefits” and I feel safe in the room full of love, positive energy and people who are non-judgmental.” – Josephine, language facilitator
Come come… we have new folks coming every week, and the sessions are always fun and light-hearted. I look forward seeing you!
May you give and receive more love each day!





Love and blessings,

Lena Chen

Holistic Therapist


Finding peace through life’s ups and downs

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